22 Jul · Tim Carter · No Comments

Your child’s friends will help them build confidence, develop social skills, and even provide moral support as they continue to grow. Unfortunately, creating long-lasting friendships is not a particularly easy task for many children, and this can lead to a variety of psychological and emotional issues later on in life. If your child seems to have some difficulties in social situations, then take a look at these few tips you can use to help them create lifelong friendships.

Emotional Coaching

Studies show that trivializing a child’s emotions will have a negative impact on how well they make friends and what types of friendships they will develop throughout their life. Instead of belittling negative or selfish impulses, parents should approach these issues with empathy and a problem-solving mentality. Staying consistent with this style of parenting will help a child create important skills such as empathy and self-control.

Be Authoritative, Not Authoritarian

One of the most important aspects of parenting is finding the right balance of rewards and punishments. While it is natural for parents to punish their children at various points in their life, children that do not act out simply because they fear punishment tend to have higher rates of aggression in their personal relationships. Being an authoritative parent is often much more effective, and this style of parenting is characterized by open discussions and the explanation of rules instead of heavy-handed punishments.

Understand Your Child’s Preferred Friendships

Parents generally have children with similar friendship preferences, but your child may be quite different when it comes to relationships. Many parents unknowingly imprint their own social behavior on their children which can lead to long-term problems. As an alternative, you can take some time to see which situations your child seems the most comfortable with and which unsettle them. Some children tend to create stronger relationships with a single person while others thrive in group situations such as a sports team or club.

Supervised Play Dates

For younger children, supervised play dates are a great way to get your child thinking about how they can become a better friend. Instead of forcing your child into a friendship with a play date, consider asking them which friends they would like to hang out with more and then set up a play date with that child’s parents. Before the day has come, have your child pick out some games or toys that they think their friends would have fun with. When a child learns how to become a better host, they are actually developing a sense of empathy and critical thinking.

Create a Welcoming Environment In Your Home

Opening your home to your child’s friends will have quite a few benefits when it comes to nurturing their relationships. First, your home is the perfect environment for shy children to begin developing relationships as it is a place that will put them at ease. Parents will also have much more control over the situation so that they can help out as needed. You will have the ability to suggest activities for the children and get a better idea about their personalities in order to see what is working and what changes can be made.

Tim Carter

I’m Tim Carter, a thirty something year old, husband, father, childcare owner, and chocolate brownie lover. I believe children deserve better and only hope this blog will create a little change.